Welcome, Ladies! (But the guys can join us if they want to.)
I must admit, I read this book a couple of months ago but just remembered that I had not yet put it on my virtual shelf, under the “…And Writers Read” tab. (Forehead slap.) I hope you will enjoy reading it as much as I did!
Feldhahn, Shaunti. For Women Only: What you Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men. Multnomah, Sisters, Oregon, 2004. It all started when Shaunti Feldhahn asked her husband a few questions about his thinking. She hoped this Q&A would help her realistically portray a male character in a novel she was writing. Instead, his answers shocked her as she realized “there were many things I thought I understood about men–but really didn’t.” Intrigued, she started interviewing hundreds of men and even took a professionally-prepared survey of many more to identify “normal” vs. “exception.” In this book, Feldhahn shares her insights with women who would like to understand and support their guys better. A couple of her seven revelations include a man’s need for respect over love (to him, the two are inseparable anyway), and most men’s desire to be romantic, though they may hesitate for fear of failing. Whether you are committed to a man or just want to write about one, I highly recommend this book.
Thanks for reading,